YOU are the only one that HAS to deal with YOU, anyone else makes it a choice to do such and because it is their choice, YOU don’t get to choose their reasons or reluctances to start or stop dealing with YOU or what comes with dealing with YOU; They have to “deal” with themselves and they might be at a place or in a season that requires them to deal with that, whatever “that” is or may be, and YOU may be in their way, or in YOUR way.
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