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What you learn from being “taught” is very different from what you learn from being “told”.



“Forgive Yourself” [POEM]

Let them go,

vindicate your tears
with vision
remember that pain
with wisdom
to the anxiety of haunting hopes
left dangling on the ropes
of regret
that mistake and maybe
cry those memories,
then erase those thoughts
that linger,
because you need to release

so let it go

find peace intently,
but realistically
that you are,
the most important thing,
the most vital entity,
the source of your energy
and anything
that restricts you
from being free
is an enemy
and if you allow,
they will supply in plenty,

You let them go

forget to remember the hurt
if it helps you to move on
go by yourself,
if it is the only way
that you can go forward
or wait
until you recognize redemption
ignore the retention
or repetition
of repeating
cycles and seasons
that fertilize the reasons
that you can’t grow beyond
the fences,
you planted
and then abandoned

something that you learned
as a lesson
from bad examples

let it go

while holding your breathe,
for revenge,
is stupid
and impossible
a self-imposed obstacle,
and you are lucid,
a truth to be proven

so prove it,
by letting go

of hopeless and hindering,
of loneliness lingering,
or anything,
that is captivity,

and be free

go to a mirror
and see
look inside of your reflection
and recognize peace,
then release
imagine your hearts desire
then dream
seize the moment
as you speak,

that you can let it all go

know that life happens
because it has to
and that doesn’t mean
that life is chasing after you

your grip on grief
and your idea
that you deserve mediocrity
because you messed up,
you just messed up
and that is going to happen,
it just does

to everyone,

so let it go

forgive yourself,
for not being there,
or being there too long,
for thinking you were right,
for being wrong,
for staying,
for being gone,
for lying,
for denying,
for taking,
for making the mistakes,
whichever one,
all of them that you made,
in the first place,
for saying what you said,
or for saying nothing,
for doing “you”,
when you could have done,
for letting years go by,
while silence festered,
and you never gestured
towards an apology
because you were hurt
and you responded
or reacted
with a reaction
that was actually
or made as such,
because it forces you
out of touch
with reality
which is actually
the truth
that it can be okay
or at least get there again


and you get to ask
for forgiveness
and to be resisted
or maybe to be listened to
because your mistake
is not as important
as them missing you
and you’ve followed
the bad advice
that came from a bad place
that you were listening to
but you’ll find it
more often than not
that people understand,
because the same thing
that got you in that trouble,
gets them too…

and they probably
don’t know what to do,
they’re just waiting
on you…

to let it go.

©2013 Cornelious “See” Flowers

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YOU have to decide what is acceptable (meaning possible, within YOUR power) and then accept it, become accountable to the achievable and access your greatness through the action of doing whatever is necessary to be done to do it;
There is no substitute for earned success, YOU must earn it, YOU must take the steps and sacrifices required to acquire YOUR deadlines, desires, and dreams. What is for YOU, is up to YOU!



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If YOU do not factor in (or realize) what has been deciding YOUR fate(s) thus far YOU will eliminate YOUR chance of being or becoming a or the deciding factor in YOUR destiny going forward; It may hurt to realize that until this point YOU have been controlled by a force or familiarity outside or aside of YOURSELF but taking in that information and taking control by taking on the situation(s) will give YOU the right and reason to get back on track and in control, NOW!

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YOU might not always do as YOU have done or think as YOU have thought or believe as YOU once believed but YOU will always be YOU! Follow the path and journey that is YOURS to experience, up/down, good/bad, here/there, right or left. YOU have to live YOUR life because YOUR survival depends on YOU. How YOU “turn out” depends on which way YOU turned along the way but that was YOU, that will be YOU, and everything in between is and is up to YOU!


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Even it takes YOU 20 years to figure it out, 20 seconds of “knowing” and being able to rest in the peace of having “known” makes the journey worth the trip(s), the trouble(s), and the trial(s).
YOU have earned YOUR truth, YOU deserve to tell it.



Closure. A resolution.

CLOSURE and RESOLUTION are two very different things;
YOU may never get resolution in or on certain matters because resolution most often requires someone else to take responsibility for whatever it is that has left YOU open, hurt, broken, or taken advantage of and more than likely that person or those people are not likely to adjust or amend how they operate or have operated, what they did or are doing because how they have been or are operating is due to who they were or are and not who YOU are or were to them.
Closure, on the other hand, requires that YOU take advantage of YOUR brokenness or pain by being open to the healing effects of faith, hope, belief, trust, and time in order to begin to operate outside and beyond the horrors of hell that YOU may have been put in or through despite the facts and truths of how much had or has happened. Resolution normally holds someone else accountable while closure makes account for YOU!
Resolution, to our normal idea and practice, aligns with the mitigating factors and realities of justice, vengeance, retaliation and/or retribution. Closure realigns YOU and constitutes YOU a factor in spite of the presence of reciprocity or responsibility of other parties. Resolution makes YOU a part of whatever conclusion justifies your satisfaction in seeing them “pay” for what they have done, closure sets YOU apart from what they have done. Resolution is a reminder, closure is a release.
Most times we confuse the two, closure and resolution, or we combine them unknowingly as we seek to redeem or rehabilitate ourselves, our feelings, our dreams, our trusts, our families, our hearts, and our pasts and they are not always synonymous. As we seek healthy interaction and inclusion we often measure our progress based on the amount of “justice” that has been served or the “karma” or “payback” that has availed itself unto the person or people that so harmed us and by virtue of being able to appreciate that they have or are suffering some consequence or constraint gives us a sense of confidence in not being singled out or severed by their act or actions, instead we are led to believe that our closure is contingent upon the opening of their wound or the eruption or corruption of their world as was or is ours. And often, if we have not dealt with “closure” properly, aside from resolution or the idea of resolution, to see a person suffer does nothing to or for us. It instead leaves gaping holes and questions, surmounted by immeasurable pain and prolonged devastation and chaos., it only facilitates the perpetuation of habits and histories of tradition that become ingrained into the system of our lives and livelihoods and is soon a part of our individual and immediate culture. It sets up the premise and personification of generational and bloodline curses and habits, it forms the negative identities that become our reputation and resolve as well as our reflex and response to ourselves and others. Unresolved issues promote unimaginable, unbelievable, and unthinkable ways and means of survival that most often are generated out of desperation and a dire need to gather attention in some fashion as a way of being able to feel existence as because most tragedy and trial done to or involving us leaves us feeling alienated and/or unknown. We then become offensive defenses that are hypersensitive to the chance of being hurt and so to eliminate that variable we become the arbitrator and administer of the pain, or the punishment. We do unto others before they can do to us.
That is what happens when things are unresolved and when we depend on resolution as our closure. This is the cycle and circle of mediocrity that seasonally plays out in our lives and in our interactions and becomes the way that we relate in our relationships, friendships, and acquaintances. This is what happens when we rely on a system or the system of authority or the system that we are or have/had been part of to mandate and manage itself to our safety, security, and significance. That system being government or grandma. The law or our loved ones. Whatever “system” it is that should, or should have, protected us, that should have shown care and consideration towards our “best” interest, that should have defined its success and survival on the premise and platform of those that it is charged to be responsible for. Quite often that system, government or grandma, fails us. Even being all that we may know as love, support, foundation, integrity, character, morality, family, value, inspiration, motivation, habit, choice, everything and anything that has to do with everything or anything, these systems fail us and our idea of success is to operate and succeed in these systems, to the degree of difficulty known to be overcome by those before us have that been able to survive it. So then we are resolute in the resolve that when these systems “fail” us we must obtain closure in order to function aside of the disappointment and devastation and that closure, as I mentioned earlier, is to be due to what we can get “resolved”, whatever “resolution” that satisfies our appetite or thirst for being equal, being deemed “justified”, being seen as matter. And it, this idea, feeds on itself as a nutrition, and that is most dangerous and unhealthy. YOU become what has been done to YOU and you feed from that and thus become more of it. As the saying goes, “Hurt people HURT people”.
Or YOU get closure.
And closure is simple.
Closure is believing that nothing or no matter what has happened, YOU still have to keep going. Closure doesn’t mean that YOU have to or are going to forget the past, nor does it mean that YOU won’t run into “it” along the way but closure means that YOU won’t continue to be vulnerable to it as YOU had or have been. Closure means that YOU allow YOURSELF to breathe and to rest and to grow above and beyond whatever circumstance or situation, instance or individual, that YOU encountered along the way that seemed to have happened to distract, destroy, or distance YOU from YOUR destiny. Closure is YOU being able to tell YOUR truth with the facts that are YOURS to tell in order to expose YOU to the benefit of being able to have overcome the trials, troubles, and tragedies of YOUR past. Closure is knowing that things happen, life happens, to everyone, anyone that is living and the fact that YOU are still living gives YOU a chance to live more life, alive, in the face of adversity and on the heel of a history that may have not been so much so to the expectation and desire of YOUR plan. But closure is a chance to try again. Closure is a guarantee that YOU won’t be hurt like “that” before and YOU won’t respond like “that” again. Closure is YOUR safety, security, and significance. Closure is YOU taking the power away from who or whatever hurt YOU and instead empowering YOURSELF to move on, up, and over into better days. Closure is YOUR resolution. Closure doesn’t mean that “justice” doesn’t need to be served, it means that a need for justice won’t define nor deny YOU going forward. Closure will open YOU up to new opportunities and new people that YOU will make YOURSELF available to and YOU will benefit from because of whatever YOU had been through, whatever YOUR story is. Closure doesn’t take away the pain, it shows YOU that YOU are able to progress through it. Closure shows that YOU can be vulnerable and feel and TRUST and believe and have faith and LOVE and that YOU CAN AND WILL DO THESE THINGS AGAIN! Closure is YOUR rest assurance that YOU are free from the binding ties and turbulences that had marred or marked YOUR path before this point and are now just place-markers, reference points, along the way of YOUR journey to remind YOU of what YOU can and have accomplished. Closure is a success in and of itself and though it does not guarantee that things will always work out YOUR way, it shows YOU what YOU are able to work YOUR way out of! Closure eliminates a lot of the hard work that comes with having to deal with people or be dealt with by them.
YOUR resolution should be closure. Maybe they get what they deserve, maybe they don’t. YOU don’t deserve to suffer because of it.


©2013 Cornelious “See” Flowers

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The. best way to “demonstrate” is to have YOUR “demons” straight; YOU overcoming (whatever it is that YOU make it through, over, or to) will come over as a more believable and attainable reality to use as an effective example and exercise toward change than your preaching or posturing ever will. People don’t always listen to what they are told but they can’t ignore what they’ve been shown. Show them.