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Love Is… (Relationship)

There is definitely a period or season in which your relationship will be even, where it should be even. “Even” in a sense of and respect to accord and assurance and automatic access to agreement. There is a time where everything seemingly always goes together in a symbiotic unity that is all spectacular and in the space of magical amazingness.

It is supposed to be like that.

For a period, for a season.

But relationships that actually last and have depth and definition and detail and evolve into destiny aren’t “even” all the time. Not even most of the time.

There is always an issue, some challenges, some changes, disruption and delay, confusion, chaos, hurt and hell to go through. There is always a problem, a decision, a choice, an obligation and a responsibility to pick a side. There is always question and instigation and accusation and controversy. There is always mess and frustration and misery demanding to sit in your company. There are moments of lack and lethargy, discontent and so much noise.

While the work has to be done.

While the bills have to be paid.

While the home has to be kept.

While the kids have to be raised.

While the time keeps passing by.

And still, more importantly still…

The soul has to be uplifted.

The spirit has to be nourished.

The mind has to be stimulated.

The romance has to be maintained.

The peace has to kept.

Your mate has to be considered.

Love is not just love. Love is everything more than love. Love is all the things more than love. Love is sacrifice and surrender whilst satisfying self. Love is particular and specific and yet ambiguous and wide. Love is gentle and firm. Love is intelligent and understanding. Love is complete yet open, comprehensive and curious.

And relationships require the steadiness of the unknown to abide its journey into fate. Ever heard of the good fight? The good fight is a relationship. The good fight is an ever-ongoing battle for the sake of someone else. The good fight is sleepless and exhausting and turbulent and demanding and constant. It always is. There is no time or room for the expectations or ask that a relationship is anything other than that.

Those seasons of complete congruence are the ultimate reward for complying with a confrontation that is compliment of your courage and cause. That good is a direct result of how good you become in the tantrum of this dynamic. You will absolutely know the days that are fantastic by the default of what those terrible times demand of you!

You’ll find “odds” more often than not. What you will achieve good at is deciding when to debate and when to defer. Compassion and patience are outfits that should align the wardrobe of your wants. Love is tender. Love is an acute mandate that you honor and embody to stay in the way. To be available for the fight. To be present and aware to the unknown. Because you chose this and for as long as an iota of desire rest in the two of you, you are obligated to take arms and forge into the fisticuffs of faith and action.

Through it all. For as long as it takes. And that is matrimony. That is what marriage really is. That is a relationship. Arduous and audacious and ambitious and abundant and adamant.

For each one of you.

Because on both sides, bookending that “season” of total compliment is life. And life requires that differences be met with diligence and discipline. And life requires decision. You decided on a relationship.

This is what you have to do.

-see

@seethepoet

©2018 Cornelious “See” Flowers

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Relationship (Notes)…

The best relationship is the one where y’all can actually RELATE! Like, the two of you KNOW one another because you learned and studied to gain the wisdom of how to treat/deal with/care for/love on/trust in/be trusted by/respect/appreciate/build/build with/acknowledge/honor/protect/be loyal to/be committed to/ be faithful to/understand/challenge/grow/push/motivate/drive/inspire/parent with/share with/be responsible for/regard/consider/plan with/plant with/grow with/succeed with one another. And there is so much more.

The REAL relationships don’t just make it when things are good, when there is money, when there is a crowd, when everyone is watching, when the weather is perfect. The REAL relationships survive the quiet, navigate through and get better through the storm, figure out how to handle and respect the hardships and trials. The REAL relationships communicate through it all. Whether they talk it out, hug it out, cry it out, pray it out, plan it out, THEY WORK IT OUT TOGETHER. These are the relationships that survive. Because they’ve earned being fought for. Because they have value aside of temporal and trivial desires. They matter more. They mean something more TO BOTH PARTNERS. There is more than a sense and notion towards the consistency. They strive to be solid. They acknowledge and understand the peace in that. They are backed by love BUT they are maintained by THE WORK! By the effort! By the energy put forth.

The REAL relationships aren’t always on the same PAGE but they are ALWAYS working towards the same ENDING of the same BOOK. So any disagreement/argument/critique/criticism/issue is always handled with this in mind: We may not always “agree” but WE HAVE AGREED that nothing is too big or to hard for our own selfish desires to humble and acknowledge that we may be wrong or uninformed or unaware of and able to constructively work through. REAL LOVE and REAL RELATIONSHIPS acknowledge this and accept that this is the law that must be abided by. Because there will always be a reason or excuse to walk away or give up but the reason to stay is worth doing just that.

And then know this… THE RIGHT MATE, PARTNER, SPOUSE is absolutely worth surrendering, sacrificing, and settling for. That is what you have to do in order to remove the pass and access that exposes you to temptation or “options” outside of your committed relationship. The Safety/Security/Significance of your union requires and depends on you choosing and standing/staying by YOUR choice. And when two people have this as the mandate of their hearts/minds/souls then what follows is the kind of symbiosis that supports and provides FOREVER BLISS, “happily ever after”, REAL!

It is a process. It is work. It requires your attention, your strength, your compassion, your ALL, your EVERYTHING, from BOTH OF YOU, continuously.

It will work IF YOU DO THE WORK and keep working so that it works out…

Can you RELATE?

-see

©2018 Cornelious “See” Flowers

@seethepoet

No Regrets [POEM]

the way you loved me worked

even if the way you loved me hurt

but I’d long ago gotten used to it

after all, I’d gotten use through it

I prefer a pain that prepares me

and being ignored just scares me

so I was always going to make it

to show you that I could take it

while you’d never been challenged

for manners you had learned malice

I felt that I could reach you

felt my submission would teach you

oh, you hurt me as routine

but my wants were as you need

I surrendered pride and peace

for attention

traded self-esteem and dignity

for a mention

I am torn for your amusement

worn or warned as you choose it

you found new ways to destroy

apology used as a decoy

my body served you first and last

you never had to ask

I had to beg for reciprocity

or for you to get on top of me

to adore me in your lust

you’d just ignore me in your rush

your pleasing was to oblige me

but you’ve never been inside me

while I emptied you of desire

you just let mines expire…

but the way you loved me worked

even if the way you loved me hurt.

-see

©2018 Cornelious “See” Flowers

@seethepoet

On Social Media…

suffice it to say,
everyone cheats
but not everyone gets caught
just as well,
everybody is for sell
but not everyone gets bought
no man is without blame
we all are guilty at a very least
each and all are liars to some extent
silence is honor amongst the thieves
pillow talk could serve subpoena
trust will indict for blame
emotions produce the evidence
hurt will mirror just the same
the resentment of regret
is why optimism dies
facing towards the past
is for production of the cries
jealousy is how we go
hate is why we do
ego is always toxic
pride is always proof
there are no true rules of engagement
be it just necessary means
hard work humbled by a lottery
of beneficial cons and schemes
and everyone is just as ready
to pounce upon the wave
a master speak in master,
and a slave should speak in slave
electronic crowds of the foolish
photographic clouds contain the midst
no particular order of success
just whomever made the list
green lights direct the traffic
along this worldwide web
spiders of insecurity
catch their prey by walking dead
a false sense of belonging
misguided notions of a ruse
in a snap she loses dignity
bartered cheaply for some views
and to some victim comes the spoil
a rotted carcass dressed in shame
pleading guilty of being normal
or being wanted, just the same
ideas toward being different
shot down by capitalists
follow me for your instruction
is from the wisdom of assists
and share in this destruction
leave your soul and sight behind
better yet to be accepted
than to ignore these private lives
diminish your capacity
for who you were to be
he left his true ambition
for the attention of a scene
haven’t seen them since logging on
been different zombies by the day
remembered to check your timeline
but forgot to walk away
and no distinction of these victims
child and parent share alike
whose to say there should be different
if we pretend it not as why
continue scrolling down this spiral
and find yourself along the way
another mention in the graveyard
becoming ghost of hollowed way

… suffice it to say,
everyone cheats
but not everyone gets caught
just as well,
everybody is for sell
but not everyone gets bought.

-see

©2018 Cornelious “See” Flowers
@seethepoet

Today will be… [POEM]

Today will be different
so I imagine it isn’t
the tomorrow from yesterday
where I had felt so much pain

Today will be possible
because I fought through the obstacles
and opened my mouth
at least to say,
“Change”

Today will be better
and I won’t let her suffer
the remnants will be nothing
I’m suggesting something other,
than the same

Today will be right
because I will fight for it
go in a different direction,
like forward

Today will be plentiful
I will settle for nothing less
than what I like towards
the way I want for myself

Today will be important
according to my expectation
suited to my taste
affording me the patience

Today will be recognized
to suddenly be anew
in the face of what was old
to such a better view

Today will be special
regardless of issues,
I never surrendered
no matter what I’ve been through

Today will be cherished
each moment and minute,
my beginning till the end
from my awake to my finish.

-see

©2014 Cornelious “See” Flowers
@seethepoet

Today’s -see

YOU have to decide whether or not YOU are going to go after that dream, if YOU are going to try to accomplish that goal, when YOU are going to make that change, and how YOU are going to make things happen.
YOU, for YOURSELF, and at first BY YOURSELF, will have to take the biggest chance on YOU! YOU will have to invest in, gamble on, sacrifice for, and take advantage of WHATEVER opportunity presents itself to YOU and sometimes YOU will have to create that atmosphere and opportunity, YOURSELF. Yes, YOU can win because YOU want the win, because YOU want to win, and because YOU are willing to do what it takes to earn the victory but it’s up to YOU. It will happen because of YOU!

Today’s -see

Today’s -see

This is not a layoff (an end or devastating setback), it’s just a layover (a delay or temporary pause) on your trip (career, life, understanding, journey). Your flight (growth, road, success, opportunity) will resume once there is maintenance (learning, rest, understanding, acceptance) and the required process done on the vehicle (job, relationship, opportunity) in order for your trip (means of getting there) to continue.

That’s all this is, a layover. Do not panic. Stay focused, stay thankful, stay prayerful, stay excited and energized about what is ahead!

YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE IT! YOU WILL GET THERE! YOU WILL ARRIVE!

You will be re-boarding (rebounding) soon.

-see

You are right…

YOU have to make this happen if you want this to happen the way that you want it to happen. Your vision requires you to visit the depths of what is possible and pertinent inside of you without assurance(s) or assumptions that someone or anyone will understand, let alone take the opportunity to undertake any task that requires them to move your progress forward. Sure there is someone that will help you, someone that wants to help you, but they are just the help, you are the reason that you will get to where you desire, are determined, and are dedicated to be. You have to get up, you have to get out, you have to go on, you have to go forward, you have to give what you have and only expect that what you give is sufficient. You don’t get to be guaranteed that anything or anyone will back you or that their backing will suffice or sustain. You are your consistency, you are your method, your habit, your tradition, your ethic, you are your character. You are your reason and your biggest excuse. You are your option just as much as you are your choice.
There is something that you want. There is something that you crave and obsess over. There is an idea or gift or talent or ability that you have, that you know, in the pit of your gut, that is necessary and valid and marketable, and meaningful, and worth fighting for. There is a feeling, a peace, a confidence, a love, a trust, a safety, a security, and a significance that you know exists and is possible and is surely attainable for you. You are not out to get what someone, anyone, else has. You want what is for you and you know that what you want is different and you can imagine and dream and fantasize the difference so easily that the thoughts are almost tangible. You know it. You know that it can happen and you know that you can make it happen.
You are right.

-see

©2013 Cornelious “See” Flowers

Todays -see

You may never get the apology you deserve or the answer you demand or the approval that you desire. You may be deprived, you may be denied.
The one thing that you most certainly do “get” if you are determined is to decide what not getting or getting those things does to and/or for you; You get to define what you mean to you, you get to destroy whatever is in your way, you get to defy the odds. You get to be deliberate. You get deliverance, and you get to deliver your destiny.

-see