YOU have to identify and define YOUR own specific desires in order to find an atmosphere that is conducive for YOU becoming an example and not just an expression of YOUR want, aim, or goals. If YOU leave “who YOU are” up to “people” they will only create for YOU an ideal person(a) that suits their needs and subsequently YOUR successes or accomplishments will only serve YOU well by them if YOU are for them. Be YOUR own YOU for YOU!
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