What YOU are really dealing with is someone that wants to do what they want to do. There is no guesswork required. It’s not some big difficult puzzle to figure out. It’s not an unanswered prayer. It ain’t the devil. It’s not YOU. It is definitely not YOU! It’s not wrong “timing” or some “complicated” thing. It’s not that YOU are not enough. It’s just them. It’s just that they want to do what they want to do. It has to do with their selfishness, and/or immaturity, and/or irresponsibility, and/or their situation that has nothing to do with YOU. They want what they want and it’s not that what they want excludes YOU, no, they want what they want AND IT INCLUDES YOU! So they are going to continue to be insensitive and immature and evasive and distant and whatever else that YOU allow YOURSELF to be a part of.
The truth is that YOU probably know that. YOU probably expected them to change. YOU probably anticipated change. YOU wanted change. YOU thought that YOU were enough or more than enough to get them to change.
No, YOU can’t change “them”. Not like it is. Not the way it has been going. Not feeling like this. It has been plenty of opportunity and time to change, but they’ve resisted. They have fought it. They have fought YOU. They’ve avoided change and ignored YOU. And the fact is that out of and after all of this, the only thing that has changed… is YOU.
And they don’t like that either.
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