You cannot expect anyone to save the you that needs to be saved. Or to care for the you that needs to be cared for. Or to protect the you that needs to be protected. Or to believe in the you that needs to be believed in. Or to support the you that needs to be supported. Or to hear the you that needs to be heard. Or to see the you that needs to be seen. Or to forgive the you that needs to be forgiven. Or to heal the you that needs to be healed. Or to free the you that needs to be freed.

Yes, you do deserve all of it. But, you have to go and get all of it. For yourself. By yourself. You cannot expect anyone, no matter who they are, no matter what capacity/role/title that they may have in your life, to do any of it for you, or even with you. You cannot expect them to support you, or stand up for you, or be willing to sit for/with you, through it.

When it is your time to heal, heal. Whatever you have to do in order to heal. Because you need to heal. The best version of you is the healed version. The right people in your life, that you matter to, are best served with your healed self. The right people in your life, that matter to you, will benefit best from your healed self. But more and most importantly is the fact/truth/reality that YOU are best served and most benefited by your healed self.

You have a responsibility. You are your responsibility. It is YOUR responsibility: to do the work, to go the way, to speak the words, to fight the battle, to take the chance, to live this life.
That’s all on you. And no one can do it for you. Or tell you that what you’re doing is not what you’re supposed to be doing. Especially when doing whatever it is turns out to be the only thing that works. Especially, and specifically, for you.

-see

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